Let’s face it. We often put ourselves last on the list of our priorities. We refuse to care for ourselves like we care for others or how we were cared for as children. We ignore all of the basics when it comes to nurturing ourselves.
Fortunately, it doesn’t have to be this way! We can take baby steps towards learning to truly mother ourselves in a healthy way.
How is that done? Try out these tips below to begin your journey:
1. See yourself first. Find a mirror and look deep into your own eyes. Tell yourself, “I love you,” or “You are loved.” Notice what emotions come up for you with this exercise. And, sink further into the good feelings that arise.
2. Be your own best cheerleader. Rah, rah, rah, sis boom bah! Using healthy, constructive, and positive self-talk is the cornerstone of mothering oneself. Giving yourself grace or the benefit of the doubt can go a long way towards developing a non-judgmental attitude about all things.
3. Quiet your mind. Find 3-5 minutes per day to be “still.” Let thoughts come and go and appreciate the moments between them. These moments are the most powerful ones – as they provide a glimpse of what’s possible for you.
4. Nudge yourself when necessary. To nurture means “to care for and encourage the development of.” Sometimes this means holding up our end of a bargain or promise with ourselves. (Remember: it’s nudge not “nag.”) It may require follow-through and sacrifice, but it guarantees growth.
Let me know if these tips are helpful to you. Reach out in the comments below!